Providing a Safe Space in the Music Room

Managing behavior in the elementary music classroom can be challenging. We can see 200+ students a day and feel like we have very little time for instruction. Sometimes it can be frustrating to deal with behavior issues in our classroom when all we want to do is teach music! But I’m reminded of this saying:

I am a teacher of children first and foremost. Music happens to be the vessel through which I reach my students.

Over twenty years of teaching, I have learned a few things that work in a music setting.

1.  Establish your expectations and live by them.

The first month of the new school year, I spend time going over expectations and establishing routines more than anything.  If an expectation is that we keep rhythm sticks to ourselves, then there needs to be a natural consequence when we don’t.  No idle threats and no multiple chances.  The first time the rule is broken, the sticks are taken away from that child.  It only takes one student to do it once and for everyone else to see the consequence.  Your students will know that you mean business.  Your words are only as good as the actions that back them up.

2. Teach behaviors explicitly.

We know what something is by knowing what it isn’t.  That’s a funny phrase, but very true.  I teach my lower elementary students that every time we come to music, we sit on our bottoms with legs crossed and hands in our laps.  We practice it.  A lot.  But we also practice what it doesn’t look like.  We practice laying on the floor, or hands propping the body up behind our backs, or legs outstretched.  Then I discuss why each one isn’t safe (others will trip over you, or step on you, etc.)  We know how to sit safely when we know what sitting unsafely looks like.  I do the same with posture, mallet technique and any other skill I want mastered in the music room. Truthfully, the kids think it’s funny to practice doing something “wrong” then “right.”

3.  Provide a safe space in your room for children who need a “state” change.

There is lots of research about providing safe spaces for children who need time away from the class or activity due to behavior issues.  I’ve heard of people creating little “island get-a-ways” and a variety of other places.  This may work for classroom teachers, but I only see my kids 40 minutes every 3 days.  I can’t have a child in “Australia” reading books instead of participating in instruction.  I do, however, create a safe space in my room.  I have a lovely mural painted in my room with a tree and birds around it.  Under the tree, I have small chair where my students can go when they are not ready to learn.  It is not a time-out chair.  It’s simply a place to go when a child is struggling to learn.  Sometimes children go on their own and other times I ask a child to go there.  I have a small basket of items for students who need some type of physical release (e.g. squishy balls, koosh balls) and some items to help students calm down (e.g. small stuffed animals, sand timers).  Most times, the student returns to the class on their own and most do so within 3-5 minutes.  If I have a child that was asked to go because of disruptive behavior, then I have them use a reflection sheet.  My reflection sheets look different for lower el (K-2) than upper el (3-5).   Another strategy I have found useful for minor behavior issues is to ask the challenging student to observe another student exhibiting the desired behavior.  It takes the focus off of the negative behavior and redirects their attention to the positive, desired behavior.

Here is what is in my calm-down caddy: Beanie Babies, Koosh balls, squeezes, and 3-minute sand timers (my 4-year old tested the “breakability”of the timer.  It passed his inspection).

4.  Communicate with parents

5.  Behavior challenges aren’t personal

Let me repeat this again: behavior challenges aren’t personal.  This is the hardest thing I am learning as a parent.  This morning I took my four-year old to Target to buy a birthday present for his cousin.  When he realized he wasn’t get a toy for himself – the mother of all meltdowns occurred.  And of course, we were in the back of the store, so I had to carry him kicking and screaming through the entire store to get him to a safe place.  Fun times in motherhood, eh?  But here’s the point – my son’s meltdown wasn’t about me.  His anger was about his lack of control over a situation.  His frustration was that he wasn’t getting his way.  It was directed at me, but it wasn’t about me.  See the difference?  The same is true of your students. So when a child gets angry, misbehaves, has an outburst – STAY CALM.  Offer two choices (Love and Logic all the way!) You can do this, or you can do that.  When my son lost it, I said, “you can give me ideas for Christmas or you can do chores to earn that toy.”  Neither choice was giving him the toy at the moment.  Be consistent – repeat the choices and continue to stay calm.  It’s not personal.  In the end, my son calmed down and apologized for his behavior.  I hugged him, reassured him I loved him and moved on.  Do the same for your students.

6.  And lastly – connect with your students

I truly think 99% of behavior issues can be averted when we foster relationships with our students.  It’s rare for any of my students in grades 2-5 to have behavior issues in my room.  Why?  I’ve worked hard the first two years getting to know them and building relationships with them.  Don’t you want to do good for people who care for you deeply?  And when they do make a mistake, they know I care enough about them to help them learn from that mistake.  In fact, when I do send a note home, I always talk to the student to share with them that the note isn’t about “getting them in trouble” – rather, an opportunity to partner with their parents to help them learn and grow.  When my little ones misbehave, I always connect with them after the redirection.  Our students need to know that our redirections and consequences come from a place of love and concern – not out of power, anger, or frustration.   For some of your students, you may be the only adult that models this type of interaction for them.

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What else would you add to this list?  How do you deal with challenging behaviors in the music classroom?